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15 of the Best Christian Books on Grief, Death, and Suffering

Life in this fallen world is filled with suffering. Because of this, every Christian needs to learn how to suffer well.

The following Christian books on suffering, grief, loss, and death will help you learn God’s view on suffering and be prepared when suffering enters your life.

My prayer for you is that God would supernaturally equip you to joyfully obey the command of 1 Peter 4:19, just like he did my mother:

Therefore let those who suffer according to God’s will entrust their souls to a faithful Creator while doing good.

(**Note: the links below are affiliate links, which means that I earn a small percentage of purchases made at no extra cost to you.)

Some of the Best Christian Books on Grief, Death, and Suffering

O Death, Where Is Your Sting? Classic Sermons on Dying in Christ and Our Heavenly Hope by Charles Spurgeon

O Death Where Is Your Sting shares six powerful sermons on death by Charles H. Spurgeon, the Prince of Preachers, to lift your eyes from the vanity and hopelessness of this world to the eternal hope all believers have in Jesus Christ. Death brings much pain and sorrow, but take heart that “The Believer’s Deathday Better Than His Birthday” and the deaths of God’s people are “Precious Deaths” because they mark the day of our heavenly homegoing.

Spurgeon’s Scripture-saturated preaching has lifted grieving souls for generations. I hope this new volume of classic sermons will do the same for you, whether you consider the fate that will come upon us all, grieve the loss of a loved one, or walk through the valley of the shadow of death yourself.

For All Who Grieve: Navigating the Valley of Sorrow and Loss by Colin S. Smith

When Pastor Colin Smith found himself counseling grieving couples in his church, he turned to the book of Lamentations for help. What unfolded is recorded in this book.

Written with compassion and understanding, yet honestly facing the difficult questions that death stirs up, For All Who Grieve shows what it looks like to grieve with hope.

Based on the biblical themes of tears, talk, guilt, grievance, hope, and healing this book will demonstrate how to navigate the valley of grief, sorrow, and loss. Most of all, though, it points to Christ, our Savior, who knows what it is to walk sorrow’s path. For when you pass through the valley of sorrow and loss, you are in a place where Christ can be found.

A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss by Gerald Sitzer

Loss came suddenly for Gerald Sittser. In an instant, a tragic accident claimed three generations of his family: his mother, his wife, and his young daughter. While most of us will not experience loss in such a catastrophic form, all of us will taste it. And we can, if we choose, know as well the grace that transforms it. A Grace Disguised plumbs the depths of our sorrows, whether due to illness, divorce, or the loss of someone we love. The circumstances are not important; what we do with those circumstances is. In coming to the end of ourselves, we can come to the beginning of a new life — one marked by spiritual depth, joy, compassion, and a deeper appreciation of simple blessings.

A Grief Observed by C.S. Lewis

Written after his wife’s tragic death as a way of surviving the “mad midnight moment,” A Grief Observed is C.S. Lewis’s honest reflection on the fundamental issues of life, death, and faith in the midst of loss. This work contains his concise, genuine reflections on that period: “Nothing will shake a man — or at any rate a man like me — out of his merely verbal thinking and his merely notional beliefs. He has to be knocked silly before he comes to his senses. Only torture will bring out the truth. Only under torture does he discover it himself.” This is a beautiful and unflinchingly honest record of how even a stalwart believer can lose all sense of meaning in the universe, and how he can gradually regain his bearings.

A Grief Sanctified: Through Sorrow to Eternal Hope by J.I. Packer

Richard and Margaret Baxter had been married only nineteen years before she died at age forty-five. A prominent pastor and prolific author, Baxter sought consolation and relief the only true way he knew- in Scripture with his discipline of writing. Within days he produced a lover’s tribute to his mate and a pastor’s celebration of God’s grace. It is spiritual storytelling at its best, made all the more poignant by the author’s unveiling of his grief.

J. I. Packer has added his own astute reflections along with his edited version of this exquisite memoir that considers six of life’s realities-love, faith, death, grief, hope, and patience. He guides you in comparing and contrasting the world’s and the Bible’s ideals on coping with these tides of life. The powerful combination of Packer’s insights and Baxter’s grief gives you a beacon if you are searching for God, a pathfinder for your relationships, and a lifeline if you are grieving.

Hearing Jesus Speak Into Your Sorrow by Nancy Guthrie

In this paradigm-shifting book, Nancy Guthrie gently invites readers to lean in along with her to hear Jesus speak understanding and insight into the lingering questions we all have about the hurts of life:What was God’s involvement in this, and why did he let it happen? Why hasn’t God answered my prayers for a miracle? Can I expect God to protect me? Does God even care? According to Nancy, this questioning is not a bad thing at all but instead an opportunity. It’s a chance to hear with fresh ears the truth in the promises of the gospel we may have misapplied. It lets us retune our souls to the purposes of God we may have misunderstood.

Helping Those in Grief: A Guide to Help You Care for Others by H. Norman Wright

Many pastors and lay counselors have had minimal training in clinical methods of grief counseling.Helping Those in Grief is a biblical, practical guide to pastoral counseling written by one of the most respected Christian therapists of our time. This book is the next step after Wright’s best-selling The New Guide to Crisis and Trauma Counseling. Wright brings more than 40 years of clinical and classroom experience to this topic, and shares real-life dialogs from his private practice to demonstrate healthy, healing counseling sessions. Readers will learn how to counsel and coach both believers and non-believers who are grieving, how to walk alongside them and how to help them find the path to complete restoration.

Grieving: Your Path Back to Peace by James White

Written at a much-appreciated length, this brief book gently guides readers through the healing process of grief. Showing how grief doesn’t happen in neat orderly stages, it explains how to work through painful emotions and questions and find God’s peace and healing. Here is an updated look for a steady seller.

One Minute After You Die by Erwin Lutzer

“One minute after you die you will either be elated or terrified. And it will be too late to reroute your travel plans.”

Death comes to all, and yet death is not the end. For some, death is the beginning of unending bliss, for others, unending despair. In this latest edition of the bestselling book One Minute After You Die, Pastor Erwin W. Lutzer weighs the Bible’s words on life after death. He considers:

  • Channeling, reincarnation, and near-death experiences
  • What heaven and hell will be like
  • The justice of eternal punishment
  • Trusting in God’s providence
  • Preparing for your own final moment

Download the Sermon Series the book is based on: One Minute After You Die: A Preview of Your Final Destination

Some of the Best Christian Books on Suffering

God’s Purpose for Your Suffering by Charles Spurgeon

Charles Haddon Spurgeon knew what it means to suffer, and he also knew how to find consolation for his sorrows in the truth of the Bible. Join him in God’s Purpose for Your Suffering to learn how to take joy in your sufferings and use your trials for God’s purposes.

Be Still, My Soul: Embracing God’s Purpose and Provision in Suffering

This anthology includes essays from both classic and contemporary theologians, Bible teachers, and missionaries such as John Calvin, Charles Spurgeon, Dietrich Bonhoeffer, John Piper, Corrie ten Boom, Joni Eareckson Tada, and Helen Roseveare. Each entry expounds on a Bible verse, leading readers to see and be comforted by God’s perspective, purpose, and provision in suffering.

The Gospel According to Job: An Honest Look at Pain and Doubt from the Life of One Who Lost Everything by Mike Mason

Anyone who has suffered knows that there is no such thing as “getting a grip on oneself” or “pulling oneself up by the bootstraps. The only bootstrap in the Christian life is the Cross,” says Mason. “Sometimes laying hold of the cross can be comforting, but other times it is like picking up a snake.”

Job knew this firsthand. From him we learn that there are no easy answers to suffering. That the mark of true faith is not happiness, but rather, having one’s deepest passions be engaged by the enormity of God. And through Job we learn the secret of the gospel: that “mercy is the permission to be human.” The Lord never gave Job an explanation for all he had been through. His only answer was Himself. But as Job discovered, that was enough.

The Gospel According to Job sensitively brings the reader to this realization, using a devotional commentary format that reminds them that it’s all right to doubt, to be confused, to wonder–in short, to be completely human. But what will heal us and help us endure is a direct, transforming encounter with the living God.

Ministering to the Mourning: A Practical Guide for Pastors, Church Leaders, and Other Caregivers by Warren Wiersbe

Formerly titled Comforting the Bereaved, this practical, insightful guide gives direction to pastors and lay-leaders of all levels of experience. Included are recommended Scriptures to read; an explanation of the stages of grief; approaches to conducting funerals in special circumstances such as suicide, victims of crime, multiple family deaths, or when the deceased is unknown to the pastor; signs of healthy and unhealthy grief, and how to help survivors cope. This new edition contains a chapter on ministering to victims of terrorism. It is also recommended for chaplains and hospice caregivers.

Rejoicing in Lament: Wrestling with Incurable Cancer and Life in Christ by J. Todd Billings

At the age of thirty-nine, theologian Todd Billings was diagnosed with incurable cancer. The questions were acute: Why me? Why now? Where is God in all of this? This eloquently written book shares Billings’s journey and reflections on providence, lament, and life in Christ in light of his illness. He moves beyond pat answers to show how our human stories of joy and grief can be incorporated into the larger biblical story of God’s saving work in Christ.

Surprised by Suffering: The Role of Pain and Death in the Christian Life by R.C. Sproul

The problem of suffering is often raised by those who question the goodness or the power of God. In this book, newly revised and expanded, R.C. Sproul provides biblical answers to the questions all of us ask about suffering and addresses some of the many unbiblical conclusions that are put forth today. In the end, he shows that suffering is not outside the realm of God’s providence and His good purposes.

Suffering and the Sovereignty of God from Desiring God (free PDF or conference audio)

In Suffering and the Sovereignty of God, contributors John Piper, Joni Eareckson Tada, Steve Saint, Carl Ellis, David Powlison, Dustin Shramek, and Mark Talbot explore the many categories of God’s sovereignty as evidenced in his Word. They urge readers to look to Christ, even in suffering, to find the greatest confidence, deepest comfort, and sweetest fellowship they have ever known.

The Problem of Pain by C.S. Lewis

In The Problem of Pain, C.S. Lewis, one of the most renowned Christian authors and thinkers, examines a universally applicable question within the human condition: “If God is good and all-powerful, why does he allow his creatures to suffer pain?” With his signature wealth of compassion and insight, C.S. Lewis offers answers to these crucial questions and shares his hope and wisdom to help heal a world hungering for a true understanding of human nature.

Trusting God: Even When Life Hurts by Jerry Bridges (or check out condensed version: 31 Days of Trusting God)

In an effort to strengthen his own trust in God during a time of adversity, Navigator author Jerry Bridges began a lengthy Bible study on God’s sovereignty. The revelations changed his life. In Trusting God,Jerry shares the scope of God’s power to help you come to know Him better, have a relationship with Him, and trust Him more—even when unjust things happen. Tragedy, grief, loss, and death are part of life. Discover how Trusting God can reveal biblical truths about God.

Walking with God through Pain and Suffering by Tim Keller (watch 50-minute Q&A video on the book)

New York Times bestselling author of The Songs of Jesus Timothy Keller—whose books have sold millions of copies to both religious and secular readers—explores one of the most difficult questions we must answer in our lives: Why is there pain and suffering?

Walking with God through Pain and Suffering is the definitive Christian book on why bad things happen and how we should respond to them. The question of why there is pain and suffering in the world has confounded every generation; yet there has not been a major book from a Christian perspective exploring why they exist for many years.

When God Weeps: Why Our Sufferings Matter to the Almighty by Joni Eareckson Tada

When God Weeps is not so much a book about suffering as it is about God. It tackles tough questions about heaven and hell, horrors and hardships, and why God allows suffering in this life. Through a panoramic overview of what the Bible says about suffering, the authors make clear who God is, why he permits so much heartache and pain, and how it is we can trust him. With both a practical edge and heartfelt warmth, When God Weeps offers dependence on his love and mercy in spite of our doubts, fears, longings, and questions. It’s a message much needed. Despair and discouragement are rampant. At the same time, fewer people are able to balance God’s purposes and his mercies. Instead, attempting to avoid tragedy and suffering, many Christians confuse simple formulas for faith. But where does that leave the family who loses a son on a military mission? Or the young mother who isn’t healed of cancer? When God Weeps is for people like these . . . and for thousands more who need more — much more — than answers.

Kevin

I serve with Unlocking the Bible. I blog for the glory of God, to nourish the church, and to clarify my mind. A lover of Christ first, people second, and random things like coffee, books, baseball, and road trips. I wrote When Prayer Is Struggle. Soli Deo Gloria

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